John Rosemond is known as the most widely read parenting expert in the United States. Since 1971, John has worked with families, parents and children in the field of family psychology. He is a national syndicated columnist and author of several of the best-selling parenting books. His voice suggests that humor and ease, and fascinating styles are also well known. In recent years, John has appeared on numerous national TV shows, including 20/20, Good Morning America, Views, Today Show, CNN and numerous print interviews.
In the 1950s, John grew up in a family, although it was not called a family at the time. John said that they are a family. As far as he knows, they are no different from any other family. John called his stepfather "dad." His biological father, who only saw it in the summer and lived a thousand miles away, had no problem with it. When he felt that John needed discipline, his stepfather made rules, assigned responsibilities and trained him. John's mother allowed her husband to raise her son undisturbed.
John believes that the main problem with today's successor family is that members do not act because they live in a family. Instead, they behave as if they were living in a "step" that emphasizes the prefix. In this case, the step-parent is like a long-time visitor. He believes that this is especially the case if the step-parent does not allow a free license with the children of his or her spouse. Giving the step-parent free clinical license is contrary to the philosophy of doctors Laura Schlessinger and Phil. They all feel that they should not discriminate against their stepchildren. Most mental health professionals also adopt their ideas. These experts believe that when transgender disciplines violate borders. Such violations can lead to confusing stepchildren, resentment of children and biological parents, and can lead to rebellion and other equally bad things. John believes that the divorce rate of step-parents has risen sharply mainly because the step-parents follow the advice of Dr. Laura and Phil. John thinks it created a family with the United States and their family that we are not a family. It is just a group of people who have major, unresolved territorial issues and try to live under one roof. This is a convenient financial arrangement, but it can be said to be the best.
John said that he was not confused when he grew up in his mixed family. He does not hate the discipline of his stepfather, not hate his mother's discipline. He said that when he lived with his biological father, his rebelliousness reached its highest point in history. After living with him for more than a year, he called his mother and asked to go home, even though his biological father gave him a car and placed him in his own apartment at the age of 16 years old. He handed it all over to a stepfather. He just let him drive occasionally and let him do things like painting a house and weeding by hand. John made the following recommendations:
- First marriage . When a ladder family is formed, the marriage relationship must first appear. This is the number one family rule, regardless of prefix or missing prefix.
- The parent-child relationship is reduced. Children should be prepared for this in advance, so their new identity is not shocking. The more active adults are, the more likely they are to succeed in a new family arrangement. The best interests of everyone are in the best interests of everyone, to "reduce" the pre-existing parent-child relationship and transfer it to the well-known backseat.
- Parental authority to the child . Both adults have the right to manage the children in their home. The couple should work together to develop family rules, communicate rules to the children, including their understanding, and then ensure that the child is obeying. Regular communication should be made on discipline and care for all children.
Please understand that I have not made John's experience of growing up in a mixed family the answer for all of us, not even those of us who find ourselves in a mixed family. There are too many dynamics to consider including:
- Stepparent's maturity and temperament,
- Regarding the hypersensitivity and defensiveness of any discipline of non-biological parents,
- The role of "before" [born parents] in the new family, with
- The age of the children when mixing.
Considering the high divorce rate of mixed families due to parenting problems, I do feel that what John said describes serious considerations. I fully agree with the priority of the marriage relationship and the corresponding reduction in parent-child relationship. I think it's safe to conclude that what Laura and Phil have suggested doesn't achieve the desired level of success. It's time to adopt a completely new approach - this is a unique family and environmental approach. To ensure that understanding the work of your mixed family will require diligence, communication and determination.
Orignal From: John Rosemond's point of view on the stepfather's family
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