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Keep a grateful diary
When you are faced with the fear of being unable to support yourself or may be your family, you are easily caught looking for something you don't have: you don't have income, you don't have good food, you can't pay bills, you drink lemonade instead of champagne.
It's completely understandable, but it's fatal, focusing on what you don't have. You will feel defeat, which will prevent you from selling yourself as a winner in the application form and interview. You can rotate this.
A large number of psychological studies have shown that gratitude and happiness are complementary. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey has maintained a grateful diary since he was young. This is a simple but revolutionary concept.
At the end of each day, you write down what happened and you are grateful. Has anyone opened a door for you? Is your bill cheaper than you expected? Has your child done something beautiful?
No matter how hard your days are, you can always find something to appreciate. At your most bleak moment, you may find yourself writing "I am grateful to my sister for letting me use her shower" or even "I am still alive." At those moments, you will truly understand the value of gratitude.
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Think of it as your job
You are not unemployed. Your job is to find a job. This may be the worst salary you have ever had, but if you work hard, you will gain the skills of patience, persistence and ultimate employment.
Imagine your new boss wearing a stylish suit, clenching your hand and looking down at you. Will that boss be with you, wearing pajamas, strolling around the office at 11 am, and opening YouTube comfortably in front of the computer?
Now you are your own boss. This means you have to arrive at the office every morning at 9am. This means you must work hard to improve your resume, get advice from recruitment agencies, apply for a job, or even practice your special skills or read how to improve your application and interview skills.
If you like, you can spend an hour for lunch. Finished at the same time as work. Rest on weekends.
Not only does this help you get into everyday life, it also prevents you from being lazy and helps you track the energy you put into your job search.
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Rest awhile
I don't just spend 15 minutes drinking a cup of tea [although I don't know if a cup of tea can't be cured]. I mean a spiritual rest. When you face constant rejection and lack of feedback, your motivation will plummet. You can only listen to your own voice. After a while, it may start saying "You can't do it", "You have always failed", "You are not as good as other candidates", or the worst is "You can never find jobs."
If they hear you talking about yourself like this, what would your best friend say? If they would say, "Your surprise, because you have been working hard" or "You are close to the goal every day, don't worry about every application form and every interview", you have chosen a good friend. Grab yourself when you are playing yourself in spirit. Rest awhile. Breathe. Tell yourself what this good friend will tell you. Then speak out loud.
Self-motivation is critical to success. This is the spark that launches the app, calls or writes a resume.
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Tell it about it.
Remember, "talking" doesn't mean "complaining." Moping is ok at low doses, infrequent doses, but it's also something you have to break through.
Share your experiences with people you trust. Has your friend or family been unemployed? Ask them. How do they feel? What did they do to overcome it? Absorb all suggestions and use them yourself. You may [or may not] be surprised how many people are in a position similar to yours. This is not only the era of layoffs, but also the age of those who often change jobs and pursue dreams.
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Golden Rule: Never give up
You will not be unemployed for ten years. This will not happen unless you work very hard to get out of work, or if there are unresolved psychological or physical problems that prevent you.
This may take a few months and may take more than a year. This may not be the job you dreamed of, but you will inevitably be hired. Whether it is savings, parents, government, spouse or friends, you will get financial support during your unemployment. There are always ways to get help. This can be painful, and you may learn the lesson about your pride, but it can be done.
I recently met a successful, energetic happy man with a history of unemployment. When he is homeless, he has the right to this pain and fear. Instead, he used the golden rule to spend his storm. He was previously employed and knew that he could do it again. He has recovered from addiction, so he knows he is strong enough to recover from homelessness. He still has many years of life, so he can try again. Then again. Then again.
If you try, you can only get there. Be gentle to yourself and never give up.
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