I recently read this book, why Mars and Venus collide, and improve the relationship between men and women by coping with different stresses. John Gray, Ph.D. I really like this book! I must say that this is a much needed book for couples because it can educate and provide insights and specific skills and strategies for dealing with stress in men and women.
This book explains how our brains are structured and functionally different to influence our behavior. In a section called Hardwired to Be Different, the authors point out that "men and women have two different types of brains that are also designed for intelligent behavior." The main difference is that men have more gray matter than women, while women have more white matter than men. This fact in itself explains why we are good at different tasks and different chapters. It also points out why men focus on one task at a time, women multitasking, and why men are risk-takers, women are conservative and give priority to safety. . Because of the fundamental differences in brain structure and function, women should not expect men to behave like women, and vice versa. We should respect these differences and work together to keep these differences in mind.
The other part of the book points out the differences in hormones and how it affects our behavior. Special emphasis is placed on stress hormones and their impact on the health of men and women. Women usually need to focus on maintaining oxytocin levels, and men need to focus on keeping testosterone levels elevated. The authors list 100 ways in which women can improve her oxytocin levels and 100 ways men can help women improve oxytocin levels. I found a 90/10 solution that allowed a woman to keep her feeling good hormones especially revealed; this is something I have always kept in my heart. There are also tips on how women can help men improve testosterone levels.
The three chapters of this book are dedicated to explaining why the battle started, what we can do to prevent them, how to stop the battle and how to make up for it after the battle. These chapters contain useful tips and advice. From now on, I will keep in mind that "mixing feelings and solving problems does not work at all." The author suggests that we have two types of conversations - one is to relieve emotional stress, called Venus Talk, and the other is to solve the problem.
I have a few "aha" moments when I read this book. This is the book I will mention about how to deal with stress and improve the answers and reminders of relationships with partners. Now I have a better understanding of our differences and what I and my partners need to respond effectively to stress. I know that applying the techniques and strategies described in this book will help couples bring the best partners.
Orignal From: Book review: Why Mars and Venus collide with John Gray, Ph.D.
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