You are not willing to admit that certain characteristics and behaviors are part of "who are you." You deny and reject them by "pushing" them into your shadow. However, as part of you, they will pop up your relationships - and destroy them!
Shadow
Your traits and behavior Denying that you are part of yourself Don't go away, but "store" in the so-called "your shadow". This means that they represent the dark side you are trying to reject and ignore.
Why do you deny, reject and ignore your dark side?
The dark side is the side you don't want to see because:
* You think that this aspect contains features and behaviors that are not accepted by society;
* You think these characteristics and behaviors will be those characteristics and behaviors Bring shame, contempt and ridicule It's on you;
*Do you think these parts will be those parts? Hurt your relationships - Give your partner a Unfavorable picture Who are you, causing your partner not to love you, to appreciate you, or to worship you, just like you want him/her.
Why do you deny that the shadows have destroyed your relationship?
As long as you don't allow yourself to recognize and accept all the features and characteristics, you won't bring "your true identity" to your relationships. When these characteristics are expressed in your interactions with your partner - whether it is aggression, stubbornness, jealousy, jealousy, control, dependence - causing problems, conflicts and arguments, you will not be against you in any way that causes them and conflicts. The behavior is responsible. . Therefore, you may continue to struggle and struggle, sometimes leading to separation.
Michael's shadow: oh, possessiveness and domination
After a year of dating, Michael made every effort to make Sandy happy. He bought a gift, brought flowers, called her every night, and wished her good night. Michael wants to be with her all the time, even if she meets her friends or visits her family. He is always ready to pick her up after work and drive home instead of letting her use her company or public transport.
Michael's Shadow: Explaining
Michael likes Sandy, takes care of her, and wants to participate in her life as much as possible. He developed an image about himself - and a project with his partner - is a person who loves, cares, and is interested in what happens in the life of a partner.
But other key features are deeply rooted in Michael's shadow: jealousy, possessiveness and domination. Since he denied that they were part of him, he did not know how much they controlled him and his expression of Sandy's love. In the end, if he wants Do not They realize that acknowledging and accepting these as part of his and his "love behavior", these exact characteristics will continue to damage his relationship [because they may have made a valuable relationship]: Sandy easily feels that he is trying to control And kill her.
Your shadow is part of "Who are you?"
If you are a jealous, possessive and overbearing person, but do not recognize and accept such words, you will reject and deny any of your feelings and expressions, which involve jealousy, possessiveness and domination. When these will appear in your relationships, you will be sure that these are relationships Your partner, It's not yours!
Recognize and accept your shadows to build a successful relationship
When you come into contact with your shadow - recognize and accept all the characteristics of "your true self" - you can take responsibility for your reactions and actions, change anything that needs to change, and develop healthy and true intimacy .
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