First come... divorce? Oh, Jeeze!
These days, divorce seems to be the new normal. Yes, this is very sad, but let us face the facts. Many of us divorced our children. Is divorce difficult enough? When you get married, I think it can be said that no one is thinking,
"Let's get married, have some kids, pass the ringtone, then divorce... yes! Get ready, set, rest!"
Sleepless night [insert your hometown here.]
Here, with or without children, you are here, want to know how you ended here, and worst of all, want to know where you will end. Divorce is terrible; it is completely out of your comfort zone, and all these problems are hard to sleep in your mind. You may wish that you can go back, but it is likely that this is impossible. So where do you go from? Ok, let's assume that you have given yourself some time to be sad. You are alone, but you finally decide not to spend the rest of your life alone. So, here, we enter the dating world, [please mother, don't set it up!]
Dating and love
It seems that you have been a million days. It's very likely that you have a hard time finding the right person, but let's say you finally found that special person! You are in a place where you never thought about coming back. You are in love!
Perfect marriage, [or what you want.]
Wow! You are in love, you are married, your spouse and your child seem to get along very well... jeeze, this is great! Seriously, what problems might have happened in the past? I mean you never thought you would find the right person, let alone get married again; you are in heaven. But wait a minute, it seems that something is right in front of you. This can't be right, after all, when you step in, you are in the most wonderful place...
前's former spouse!
This doesn't make any sense, I have to tell you anything, but it has been happening, so please listen. Let us say that your predecessor or your spouse's predecessor wants to have nothing to do with your spouse or you, until, dun, dun, dun dun [this is terrible music], the point is your new, lovely spouse ! Suddenly, after these years,
"You are not good enough, I don't want to see you again..." The predecessor thought you were a bomb! They are flirting with you, they seem to have forgotten how much they despise you, they will ignore something over the years, because others find you absolutely handsome or beautiful. That can't stand your spouse, and hope that the divorce is so bad, I hope you come back! They can't stand your wife or husband.. They are jealous!
One of the biggest mistakes I have ever seen people is that they are in trouble because of this erroneous hope. They actually divorced their new spouse and then returned to the elderly so they could take their old home home - their family. They forgot all the bad things and tried again. Please, please don't make this mistake. why? Because people want things they can't have. They don't necessarily want you, this is the fact that others find you, have you, and worship you. Going back to this person will almost always end in a bigger disaster, not when you are divorced. You may have a few weeks, or months of happiness back together, but the old way will come back again. When you find out that your spouse says, "I made a mistake, I no longer want you, the old man you divorced with me, I don't like you anymore, you will hurt yourself and your children."
Dealing with the former spouse
What is the best way to deal with this awkward spouse? Let them know that you have left. He or she has a chance, they beat you, and you are happy again. Don't fall because they want your lies to come back. They just don't want to see you happy, especially if they are not happy now. If you have children involved, don't say bad things to your predecessor, no matter how they say you or your spouse. It will make the children feel uncomfortable; after all, this is still their mother or father, they will always be loyal to both of you.
If this spouse keeps track of you, or ruthlessly calls, record the date, time, and what they say. If they are not about children, or if they threaten to make them detrimental to you, please save the information and call the police every time. You need to generate a timeline and what is happening. Your predecessor may be told that they may not contact you unless it is only used to care for the child. It must be in the best interests of the children.
Support your spouse. Support your child. If possible, don't let the people know that they will find you. This is exactly what they want - under your skin. Try to get things off the back. This is easier said than done, but the more you practice, the easier it is, and the better your child and new spouse will live. Good luck and I wish you a happy life! It all depends on how you and your things are handled!
Orignal From: Step by step raising and treating the former spouse of cockroaches
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