When two people focus on giving rather than accepting, can you imagine peace, peace, happiness and harmony that you can experience in relationships? When they don't have the expectations of a partner? If you've read Chapman's book "Five Love Languages," you'll be familiar with the five things he thinks people want or need to feel.
Although I agree with his five actions, I believe there are several other behaviors, so I want to give you more of the five and seven my own behaviors I have learned over the years. Remember, no matter how much you perform or show in your relationship, if you don't give your partner one or more loves that they need to feel, no matter how much you do, it will be futile. However, if you have been performing or giving your partner a person they need to feel true love, you can add some in your imagination...
This is the five people of Chapman.
- Service behavior.
- Physical contact
- Affirmative words
- precious time
- Receiving gifts
Based on my personal experience, I can tell you that in interpersonal relationships, I did five things for my partner, but they still seem to lack the feeling of being loved. I am not saying that Chapman is wrong, just because I think that expressing and accepting unconditional love may be more. I am not going to explain this further, please read his book. But this is my seven additions.
1 - Needs improvement. Regardless of age, physical characteristics or attitude, I believe that feeling loved, people need to know that they need emotional and physical in any way. I don't just talk about sex or intimacy, but whenever your loved one walks into a room, he will be excited no matter how they feel or feel.
2. A safe emotional environment. In the absence of retaliation, criticism, judgment or opposition, the ability to express fear, fear, desire, desire, demand, goals and setbacks in an emotionally safe environment is critical to an open and honest relationship. As we all know, women are more adept at listening than men, while men are more difficult to express their emotions, but in the end, if you want your partner to feel loved, please listen to him or her without judgment or emotionally. Control them.
3. Romance. Just because you have been together for more than eight months or thirty years does not mean that you still can't have a romantic outlook on life. I am accused of being a desperate romantic, and it is unrealistic about how relationships change over time. Sorry people, you will never convince me if a couple can't stay in love #39; years have passed, showing romance.
4. Appreciate and considerate. When I do something for you and you don't notice or care, guess what? I will stop doing this sooner or later, otherwise I will start doing these things for others. If you want to understand the importance of appreciation and consideration and its impact on your partner, a good book by Evatt, Givers and Takers is a good reading, especially if they are givers and you are a recipient.
5. Predict their needs, desires and aspirations. When your partner is under stress, worried or not 100% physically aware of their needs, they will be very concerned about how they care for them.
6. Support their beliefs, goals and goals of life. When your partner cares more about their professional or personal needs than their partner, it is no worse than in love. Everyone will have a dream sooner or later. Do not support or believe in your partner's goals or dreams. Over time, there will often be emotional distances between you.
verification. This is one of my favorites. Read Carter's book "Nasty People." Failure means that when you don't listen, you interrupt your partner is always late with their meeting or event. Every relationship will fail every day. But I will tell you to continue to disable your partner. Sooner or later, I don't care how much you do with enthusiasm and love. They will soon feel or believe that they are not important to you.
Then you have it, my seven additions. How do you rate yourself and your partner 12?
Orignal From: Twelve love languages
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