Happiness is a choice. Although this is true, it certainly will not always be like this. My father is the happiest person I know. You can't let him complain. He found that everything was positive and the testimony was crazy. This is one of the positive clicks he did not pass to me. Because this is not natural to me, I must study this lesson and focus on it. I have learned that happiness is a choice for many years, and gratitude will make me happy. Since then, I have been trying to pay attention to gratitude. As I have witnessed recently, this is much easier for some people than others.
Lexi, my 7-year-old daughter, is very happy, just like my father. She keeps smiling, always hugging, and telling me that she loves me. She also said, "Thank you very much." She can be energetic and have her dominant personality, but she is usually a happy person. My 9-year-old daughter Maddie is more like her father. She can complain a lot. It's hard to find the food she likes or to entertain her. She told me that she was more boring than she said, "Thank you." I love her very much, but sometimes I need to take a break from her negativity. Over the years, I have explained to her that her peers will be more attracted to positivity and she should focus on this as much as I do. We talked many times about how she can change the energy she puts into the world so that she can be happier and have amazing people in her life. Nothing worked.
About six months ago, when I met me, I was lying in bed and scrolling through Facebook. The news was so loud and clear that I was disappointed that I didn't see it. My phone shows a video of a young father and his daughter because he helped her become a stronger person. When they stared at a full-size mirror, he held her tightly. He will say something positive, she will repeat it while holding her. "I am a strong and independent girl," he said, repeating. She continued. "I am beautiful and very smart." It reminds me of an old Saturday night live drama, but that's exactly what I need to see. I know that strong positive information like this will help Maddie. After watching the video on Facebook, I really started thinking about it. The discussion with Maddie in the past few years did not help. Although the father focused on self-confidence in the video, I want to use his ideas and focus on gratitude. I know that if she is more grateful, she will be happier and more active.
The next day, I was very excited because I experienced the morning life in the morning and then awakened my girl. When they had breakfast, I shared my excitement with Maddie. I told her, I hope she and I share five things that we are grateful every morning, and she and I will do that every morning. She did not share my excitement.
This should be an interesting exercise, but it is cruel to us. She went to the mirror and stood there refused to participate because her sister asked to try. Plus insults, my little exercise made us late for school that morning. The next morning, Lexi enjoyed it for the first time because Maddie and I went through another attempt. It took me more than a week to realize that I made things worse and I had to change my attitude.
Since then, I have sat down with my two daughters for a grateful exercise. This is a simple process. Each of us is satisfied with the five things we are grateful for, then we share the list and list the reasons behind everything. We do it together, so all the focus is not on Maddie. She sometimes struggles, but I can see the difference. In some of the most challenging times I have encountered in my life, this exact exercise is what I will do myself. It's easy to focus on the negative aspects of our lives, or feel sorry for how bad everything is. It is difficult to pay attention to all the good things we have and our true fortune. Shifting focus to gratitude will change your perception of life, even if time is the hardest.
This is something I used to do only on Thanksgiving, and Maddie is hard to attend. This year she ran to me and showed me her list before I asked her to do it!
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