The Christmas I want is you: understanding the nature of good relationships

Helen is a very successful professional woman. Her star shines in her company. However, despite these corporate achievements, Helen does not have any meaningful relationship. Her husband stayed away from her because of Helen's business attitude. Helen's three children resent her because of the lack of emotion in life. In Helen's solitude and uninterrupted dark days, she is eager to build more meaningful relationships.

Introduction

During the Christmas banquet, Pastor Nathan Wilson served as the keynote speaker and hosted a heated topic. from

Christmas, I only want you from

 . In his speech, Pastor Wilson tells the true meaning of Christmas, the birth of Jesus Christmas, not the commercialization of the holiday.

Of course, this title is a famous song by the popular queen Mariah Carey. Some thought-provoking lyrics are:

"I don't want Christmas.

I only need one thing.

I don't care about the result

Under the Christmas tree

I only want you.

More than you know

Let my wishes come true

Christmas, I only want you "

With the arrival of another Christmas, many people assess whether the holiday is successful based on whether they got what they wanted. According to Worldatlas.com, Americans plan to spend an average of $830 on Christmas-related uses in 2015 [up 15% from 2014].

One in five Americans plan to spend between $500 and $999. Through slick advertising, companies persuade the public that their relationship will be strengthened by purchasing certain products/services for their loved ones. Therefore, in order to make others happy, there is a crazy impulse to get things.

In fact, there is an understanding that the gift is what the recipient really wants. Some people think that it is the nature of the child. However, when these actions are not children but adults, society creates a society with an empty relationship.

Adam Grant, author from

Giving and accepting from

 I think that people will be given the same degree of giving them. He observed that "Takers have a unique sign: they like to get more than they. They tend to be mutually beneficial and put their interests above the needs of others."

Good interpersonal relationships require time and effort. Building any meaningful relationship means that the relationship needs to be based on substance rather than superfluous elements. There is no universal definition of good relationships. However, good relationships have some common characteristics.

A good relationship is defined as the way two or more people interact with one another on the basis of mutual trust, respect and personal attention. When a person truly cares about an individual, the quality of life increases.

However, a good relationship requires everyone's efforts. Some people used to encounter negative relationships. Given this situation, past relationships have captured these people. From the biblical point of view, this wisdom [1 Peter 4:8] comes from: "The most important thing is that you love each other deeply, because love covers many sins."

Good relationships are not one-sided. In fact, a good working relationship is inherently true. For example, when they encounter personal problems outside of work, the boss will show his concerns about the employees. The boss understands that employees want personalized treatment. By taking these actions, the boss is building a good relationship with his workers.

Gareth Jones and Jennifer George, author from

Contemporary management from

 Please note that "relationship-oriented leaders are primarily concerned with building relationships with their subordinates and being loved by them." Therefore, in general, relationships are not static, but are due to time and distance. Multiple variables change over time. The following questions can help start a good relationship:

• Are you frustrated and changing past behavior so that you can move in a positive direction?
• Have you set unrealistic expectations for others in your relationship?
• Are you putting enough energy into your relationship to make them meaningful?
• Are you still trying to change others to meet your needs, rather than letting people be yourself?
• Are you forgiving others to give up the negative factors of past relationships?
• Are you willing to seek help from a professional consultant who can help you?

in conclusion

Good relationships go beyond accepting things. If there is no good relationship, happiness will be very far away. After the Christmas holiday, some people will feel pain because they don't get what they want. However, one of the best gifts one can have is meaningful, real relationships that last a long time.

However, any requirement for a good relationship can make a person vulnerable. Caroline Zwickerson, author 9 the quality of people with good relations "When we become vulnerable, we allow another person to see us and peep at our souls. In a thousand words." Don't wait for a good relationship. Start today and build a great life instead of wasting one.

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