Anger Management - "90 Second Rule"

Today's best relaxation tips involve anger management.

And today's management of anger skills: count to 90. The old saying that you should count to 10, but it is actually 90. In 90 seconds your anger will disappear you choose to command yourself to remain angry. In other words, keeping anger is a hard job.

You can verify this "90-second rule" by reading a fascinating book. from

"My insight" from

 Author: Jill Taylor Bolte. Dr. Bolt is a brain scientist at Harvard Medical School, "working on the research and teaching of young professionals about the brain."

In December 1996, Jill's stroke prevented her from completing simple physical or psychological tasks. It took her eight years to fully recover. In her book, Dr. Bolt shared her insights from the stroke [watch the video below].

Dr. Bolt pointed out that "although some edge [emotional] programs can be triggered automatically, one of the programs triggers less than 90 seconds, through our body surge, and then completely rushes out of our blood." In other words, anger [or, in this case, fear, sadness, and anxiety] is produced by the chemicals [neurotransmitters] that our body is surging. These chemicals disappear within 90 seconds. In order to feel strong emotions after the first 90 seconds, we must consciously choose to continue to experience anger.

I experienced this directly a few days ago because I was driving home on a two-lane road. At one point, the road bends and the other road intersects the road I am on. The speed limit of the curve changed from 50 miles per hour to 30 miles because there was no stop sign and the roads intersected and could not be seen beyond the curve.

Just as I entered the corner, a car coming from the other direction of the curve passed me in front of it, heading for the intersecting road, without slowing down and even seemed to admit that we were within a few feet of the collision. Fortunately, I reduced my speed and avoided the devastating accidents that would have happened.

My edge system has entered an overspeed state. I am very angry. My heart is driving. In my imagination, I chased the driver and forced him [or she, I am not sure] to walk to the side of the road and scream my anger on his/her face. In my opinion, I can see the driver cringe and fear me.

Then I remembered Dr. Bolt and her anger management insight. The initial [90 seconds] experience of anger has disappeared, but I did order myself to stay alive. Why am I doing this?

According to Dr. Bolt, "When we feel strong negative emotions such as anger, jealousy or frustration... [we feel] strong and powerful" [she seems to talk directly to me]. She continued, "The people I know consciously choose to exercise their anger circuits on a regular basis, because it helps them remember to feel their own way."

In other words, certain feelings are so familiar to us, and if we don't experience them, we will feel like we are not "doing ourselves."

Dr. Bolt concluded by saying: "In the years of my life, I really imagined my imagination." When we feel angry for more than 90 seconds, we are all "fiction of our imagination", therefore, Created our own pain. I remember reading somewhere, although pain may be inevitable, but pain is optional.

So the best anger management techniques may be just arithmetic problems: count to 90.

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